09.01conveniently omitted from the “what to expect” books: the daughter who sings to her vagina.
Maddie calls her private parts her “bottom.” I’m not sure how this practice began. I certainly don’t talk to her about her female parts–that’s her mommy’s job. Like disciplining her, cooking for her, clothing her, and telling her “no.”
Tonight when I got home from work and walked upstairs to take over at bath time, Maddie was standing in the knee-deep water, holding a washcloth in her right hand, looking down at herself, and singing:
“Clean the bottom! Clean the bottom! How I like to clean the bottom!”
Me: Maddie, why are you singing to your…er…private…girl parts?
Maddie: My bottom?
Me: Yeah. I guess. Your bottom. Why are you signing to it while you wash?
Maddie: Because I am!
Me: I don’t think it’s appropriate–singing to your bottom.
Maddie: But I like it, Daddy.
Me: I’m sure you do. It’s just that, well, the nudity and the singing…I’m not sure it makes for good habits. Have you seen “Forrest Gump” and how Jenny made her living in Memphis?
Maddie:
Me: Yeah. Guess not. Forget that part about Jenny. Ready to dry off?
Maddie (resuming with the washcloth, but dancing this time): Clean the bottom! Clean my bottom! See my clean bottom!
Me: Just what I was afraid of. You’re gonna want a pole in your room for Christmas.
What until she makes her butt talk. At family gatherings. Without ever having seen Pet Detective. You’ll feel the pride well like the day your mama sat you down to tell you about…well, you know.
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muskrat Reply:
September 1st, 2009 at 10:21 pm
@califmom, That certainly sounds fun. But why you gotta always bring up the conversation with my Mama that all y’all remember but I don’t?
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September 1st, 2009 at 10:14 pm
awesome.
at least she has good hygiene?
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muskrat Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 8:09 am
@churchpunkmom At least.
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September 1st, 2009 at 10:36 pm
So that’s what Jenny talks about when she says she did bad things? I thought she was just being a joint-smoking hippie, which she later learned was pure evil. But what do I know.
I blame Miley!
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muskrat Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 8:10 am
@OM, I blame Miley for most of our societal ills.
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September 1st, 2009 at 11:34 pm
In Britain they refer to the women bits as the ‘fanny’. Which is one of a dozen or so reasons that the Brits make fun of fanny pack wearing American tourists.
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muskrat Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 8:11 am
@afreeman, Ha! I love your insight here. Not that I needed it to have disdain for the fanny pack. Hey, don’t you were crocs? So, how’s that glass house?
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September 2nd, 2009 at 5:25 am
Well, if you want to start her off small, you can always get her this for Christmas.
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muskrat Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 8:12 am
@jan, That is truly awufl.
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September 2nd, 2009 at 5:59 am
Hate to break it to you, but what your son will do to his junk during diaper changes when he’s a bit older will make this seem like a fond memory.
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muskrat Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 8:12 am
@scifidad, I’ve seen a little of this already. I guess it gets worse as he gets bigger?
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September 2nd, 2009 at 6:11 am
And because you don’t disappoint I know you will have that pole right under the tree.
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muskrat Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 8:13 am
@keyona, Damn right. It’ll be a nice one.
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September 2nd, 2009 at 6:51 am
At least she likes her bottom and wants to sing to it and make it happy.
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muskrat Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 8:13 am
@carolynonline, Is that really something to celebrate?
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September 2nd, 2009 at 7:01 am
But does she have rhythm?
Because, I mean, if she’s going to do something, she should be the absolute BEST at it – ya know?
Miss Britt´s last blog ..Don’t Cry For Me, Argentina (or Internet) (or Mom)
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muskrat Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 8:14 am
@missbritt, No and not in this instance.
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September 2nd, 2009 at 8:01 am
Why not sing about it? I’m sure she sings about her nose, her feet, her fingers. It’s just a body part, like any other. She’s more likely to grow up to use those parts as Jenny did if she feels like there’s something special or dirty or shameful about them. I think any child psychologist would tell you that.
If she starts singing about other kids’ parts, then you need to worry; but her own parts? I think that’s probably healthy.
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muskrat Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 12:57 pm
@bigbluefrog, Thanks for he lesson in psychology, but she doesn’t sing to other parts–just that one. In the interest of full disclosure, however, I sing to my johnson daily.
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The Big Blue Frog Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 1:21 pm
Well, that is just messed up.
I guess it could be worse. You could be vocalizing on vaginas (I’m assuming you don’t) and she could be singing about sausages. That would be über-messed-up.
The Big Blue Frog´s last blog ..A Very Good Blog About A Fairly Common Problem
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muskrat Reply:
September 6th, 2009 at 4:57 pm
@bluefrog, Yes, that would be beyond wrong.
September 2nd, 2009 at 8:57 am
Hygiene + singing + dancing = cool kid
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muskrat Reply:
September 2nd, 2009 at 2:06 pm
@belle, She is cool. But a little disturbing sometimes.
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September 2nd, 2009 at 1:06 pm
Great. Now I’m gonna have “Clean the Bottom” stuck in my head for the rest of the day.
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muskrat Reply:
September 3rd, 2009 at 3:43 pm
*JD, It really is a good little jingle to have stuck in your head.
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September 2nd, 2009 at 4:20 pm
Well I sing to my private parts and look how I turn…
Oh yeah. Um, carry on.
BusyDad´s last blog ..Give a boy a cheeseburger and he’ll get a Happy Meal toy, teach him how to cook one and you’ll get a blog post
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muskrat Reply:
September 3rd, 2009 at 3:44 pm
@busydad, I think you turned out well, dude!
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September 3rd, 2009 at 9:39 am
The moments are particularly uncomfortable when you’re a stepfather like when they come running out of the bathroom pointing. “LOOK! I got a fweckle on my bagina!”
I’m sure you’ve seen this, but it may be an intermediate step to the stripper pole.
http://www.walletpop.com/blog/2009/09/03/the-pole-dance-doll-a-little-girls-dream-or-a-parents-nightma/
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muskrat Reply:
September 6th, 2009 at 4:59 pm
@ck lunchbox, I have seen it, and I am appalled! I hope I never have to hear about freckle locations.
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September 4th, 2009 at 3:49 pm
Reminds me of how I met my ex….
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muskrat Reply:
September 6th, 2009 at 4:57 pm
@xbox4nappyrash, Really? You need to write about that, then!
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September 6th, 2009 at 4:00 pm
OMG Where have you been all my life?? Your blog is AWESOME – and I’m not just singing that to my bottom. xx
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muskrat Reply:
September 7th, 2009 at 1:56 pm
@queen katherine, Thanks! It’s the material I’m handed, not the writing.
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September 6th, 2009 at 8:26 pm
Both my kids sing about their privates. It’s not all that uncommon and considering how much fun they will be for them in years to come not a bad thing at all. I’d love to sing about my privates in public.
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muskrat Reply:
September 7th, 2009 at 1:57 pm
@Jen, That’s good to know. I think.
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September 7th, 2009 at 9:01 am
Oh the innocence of our children it goes away so quickly and that was just so funny…
Blessings.
Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com
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muskrat Reply:
September 7th, 2009 at 1:58 pm
@dorothy, Her innocence went away a long time ago.
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September 7th, 2009 at 12:33 pm
I came over here at the recommendation of the Queen, and I am glad I did!! How did I not know you were here also??
I am still laughing…..
Sounds like you have plenty of material just waiting to happen for you to write about!!
Hope you had a great weekend!
Take care,
Kat
Kat´s last blog ..Music Monday – All The Single Ladies
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muskrat Reply:
September 7th, 2009 at 7:58 pm
@Kat, Thanks for stopping by, and yes, I do.
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September 7th, 2009 at 5:31 pm
But, hey. If that’s her future occupation, at least she’ll be clean. ‘Cause, you know, that’s important.
Coal Miner’s Granddaughter´s last blog ..And Here’s To You, MAJ Livingston.
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September 8th, 2009 at 7:01 pm
You do know that your only job as a dad is to keep your daughter off of the pole, right? You better step it up, buddy.
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September 10th, 2009 at 8:33 am